{"id":30811,"date":"2019-12-01T00:26:05","date_gmt":"2019-12-01T06:26:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=30811"},"modified":"2019-12-01T00:26:05","modified_gmt":"2019-12-01T06:26:05","slug":"audio-we-lose-the-love-we-need-by-letting-imperfections-scare-us","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=30811","title":{"rendered":"AUDIO: We lose the love we need by letting imperfections scare us"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Loving-connection.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-30818\" src=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Loving-connection.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"460\" height=\"259\" srcset=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Loving-connection.jpg 460w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Loving-connection-300x169.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 460px) 100vw, 460px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Most people find great love in their lives at one point or another but the vast majority of them end up with someone other than with that person they had so passionately connected with. Why is that?<\/p>\n<p>A friend sent me a song a couple of days ago and had some thoughts about lost love which she shared with me \u2014 and that\u2019s left me thinking about why this common pattern happens. I still don\u2019t really feel like writing, so pull up a chair and just let me talk with you about what\u2019s on my mind \u2014 about why most of us give up what does matter in order to keep projecting an image which doesn\u2019t really matter.<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->Click or tap the \u201cplay button\u201d to listen.<\/p>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-30811-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Rejecting-what-really-matters.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Rejecting-what-really-matters.m4a\">https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Rejecting-what-really-matters.m4a<\/a><\/audio>\n<p><em><strong>Note:<\/strong> The song which my friend sent to me (which I referred to here) is \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=cXjnOpgAicc\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Circus<\/a>\u201d by Nerina Pallot.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most people find great love in their lives at one point or another but the vast majority of them end up with someone other than with that person they had so passionately connected with. 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