{"id":30842,"date":"2019-12-05T00:19:13","date_gmt":"2019-12-05T06:19:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=30842"},"modified":"2019-12-05T00:19:13","modified_gmt":"2019-12-05T06:19:13","slug":"audio-someone-holding-a-grudge-feels-like-poison-from-the-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=30842","title":{"rendered":"AUDIO: Someone holding a grudge feels like poison from the past"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/David-and-girlfriend-Chicago.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-27462\" src=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/David-and-girlfriend-Chicago.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"460\" height=\"280\" srcset=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/David-and-girlfriend-Chicago.jpg 460w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/David-and-girlfriend-Chicago-300x183.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 460px) 100vw, 460px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Why would she still be angry enough to say nasty things about me 10 years later?<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s all I could think about today when I found out \u2014 quite by accident \u2014 that an ex-girlfriend is still bad-mouthing me 10 years after we broke up.<\/p>\n<p>Even though it\u2019s a long-dead relationship \u2014 and it\u2019s one that should have ended long before it did \u2014 I still hate the thought of someone speaking badly about me. I\u2019ve spent much of the day trying to figure out why it bothers me.<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->Click or tap the \u201cplay\u201d button to listen.<\/p>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-30842-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Bitterness-from-an-ex.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Bitterness-from-an-ex.m4a\">https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/Bitterness-from-an-ex.m4a<\/a><\/audio>\n<p><em><strong>Note:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=27461\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I wrote about this relationship<\/a> about nine months ago when I came across an old photograph of the two of us in Chicago.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why would she still be angry enough to say nasty things about me 10 years later? That\u2019s all I could think about today when I found out \u2014 quite by accident \u2014 that an ex-girlfriend is still bad-mouthing me 10 years after we broke up. 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