{"id":32409,"date":"2020-08-22T02:09:06","date_gmt":"2020-08-22T07:09:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=32409"},"modified":"2020-08-22T02:09:06","modified_gmt":"2020-08-22T07:09:06","slug":"the-alien-observer-im-not-going-to-change-and-youre-not-either","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=32409","title":{"rendered":"The Alien Observer: I\u2019m not going to change \u2014 and you\u2019re not, either"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-32410\" src=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"460\" height=\"259\" srcset=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Alien-Observer-title-Episode-7-1536x864.jpg 1536w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 460px) 100vw, 460px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We talk a lot about changing ourselves and we spend a lot of time waiting for other people to change. But what if the truth is that we never change who we are? What if all the people we are waiting to change are never going to change, either?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been watching others and paying attention to myself long enough to believe that none of us essentially change who we are. We merely develop the maturity and deeper personal understanding to change the way we act.<\/p>\n<p>We learn to listen to the better parts of ourselves and refuse to obey the darker parts which will always be hidden inside, whether we like it or not.<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->Click or tap the \u201cplay\u201d button to listen. The Alien Observer is available by free subscription from all the major podcast directories. 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