{"id":37328,"date":"2023-09-08T23:34:19","date_gmt":"2023-09-09T04:34:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=37328"},"modified":"2023-09-08T23:34:19","modified_gmt":"2023-09-09T04:34:19","slug":"missing-childhood-connections-leave-us-longing-for-missing-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=37328","title":{"rendered":"Missing childhood connections leave us longing for missing love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TAMF-connections.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-37329\" src=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TAMF-connections.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"460\" height=\"259\" srcset=\"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TAMF-connections.jpg 920w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TAMF-connections-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/TAMF-connections-768x432.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 460px) 100vw, 460px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We live in a dangerous and dysfunctional culture, but the biggest battle that a lot of us fight is at the core of our own psyche. If we don\u2019t win that battle and find ways to love and be loved, the world around us won\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n<p>Inside, I\u2019m still the same 5-year-old boy who doesn\u2019t understand why he doesn\u2019t feel loved and accepted and cherished by his parents. If I can find a way to get that need filled, every other problem in my world is solvable. But until I fill that need, it doesn\u2019t matter what I achieve.<\/p>\n<p>Only real love and acceptance are ever going to fill that hole in my heart that\u2019s been there for as long as I can remember.<\/p>\n<p>This is the next in a series of videos dealing with issues that come up for me to think about as I write a book about my childhood experience of growing up with a narcissistic father. You can visit that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCliyrI-UYvz_rox73NonXrQ\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">YouTube channel<\/a> to subscribe to future videos. (Liking and subscribing help me quite a bit in helping others to see the videos.) Or you can watch this video below.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/H4PMHBCueL4?si=GGdpoybuTjRkkJQ6\" width=\"460\" height=\"259\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">\ufeff<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We live in a dangerous and dysfunctional culture, but the biggest battle that a lot of us fight is at the core of our own psyche. If we don\u2019t win that battle and find ways to love and be loved, the world around us won\u2019t matter. 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