{"id":37393,"date":"2023-09-25T22:53:22","date_gmt":"2023-09-26T03:53:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=37393"},"modified":"2023-09-25T22:53:22","modified_gmt":"2023-09-26T03:53:22","slug":"to-heal-from-narcissistic-abuse-you-have-to-stop-hurting-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=37393","title":{"rendered":"To heal from narcissistic abuse, you have to stop hurting yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I am painfully aware of what was done to me as a child. I still need to talk about it and be sure I understand it. But I\u2019ve reached the point that I am no longer remaining a victim. When I was a child, my father took power away from me completely and he held onto that power after I became an adult. He kept reinforcing the ways in which he was the one with power and I was the one who was under his thumb. Even though he\u2019s dead, it would be easy to keep living that way \u2014 to keep living as though I had no power and I had no ability to get past what he did to me.<\/p>\n

But that isn\u2019t what I want. That isn\u2019t what I need. I am slowly taking back the power that I had given up to him. I\u2019m taking back the control that I allowed him to keep over me far into my adult life. I can be who I really am. I can take back the power over my own life. And in doing these things, I can finally stop victimizing myself. I can slowly stop being anybody\u2019s victim, but only because I\u2019ve healed enough that I\u2019m ready to do that.<\/p>\n

This is the next in a series of videos dealing with issues that come up for me to think about as I write a book about my childhood experience of growing up with a narcissistic father. You can visit that YouTube channel<\/a> to subscribe to future videos. (Liking and subscribing help me quite a bit in helping others to see the videos.) Or you can watch the most recent video below.<\/p>\n