{"id":40249,"date":"2026-08-23T21:08:15","date_gmt":"2026-08-24T02:08:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=40249"},"modified":"2026-08-23T21:16:42","modified_gmt":"2026-08-24T02:16:42","slug":"we-have-to-unlearn-lies-before-the-truth-can-ever-make-sense","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/davidmcelroy.org\/?p=40249","title":{"rendered":"We have to unlearn lies before the truth can ever make sense"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Almost nothing is left of all the things I felt so certain about when I was young.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that I didn\u2019t know as much as I thought I knew. It\u2019s worse. What I\u2019ve slowly realized is that much of what I knew<\/em> at the time \u2014 even that which I was certain about \u2014 was wrong. I\u2019ve had to unlearn many of those things.<\/p>\n

In some ways, it would have been easier if I had simply been ignorant. If I don\u2019t know something, there\u2019s an empty space where truth can eventually fit. I can learn something new and fill in what I didn\u2019t know before.<\/p>\n

But when I already \u201cknow\u201d something that isn\u2019t true, there\u2019s no empty space. The space is already occupied by something false.<\/p>\n

And that false belief changes the way I understand everything else.<\/p>\n

I can look directly at evidence that ought to tell me I\u2019m wrong and find some way to explain it away. (I\u2019m really good at that.) I can encounter something that ought to be obvious and fail to see it because it doesn\u2019t fit what I already \u201cknow.\u201d I can spend years trying to make new pieces of truth fit into an old framework that was wrong from the beginning.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we can\u2019t learn the truth until we first unlearn the falsehood that makes the truth seem impossible.<\/p>\n

That happened to me over and over.<\/p>\n

In the last decade or so, I\u2019ve allowed myself to be a beginner in the struggle for life\u2019s truth and wisdom. I\u2019ve accepted that I know next to nothing.<\/p>\n

That would have terrified the younger version of me. I was once heavily invested in the things I believed. I needed to be right. I needed the world to make sense according to the map I had been given and according to the things I had decided were true.<\/p>\n

Today, I\u2019m willing to abandon any belief or idea if I discover it conflicts with truth and wisdom. I no longer feel the need to convince you that I\u2019m right. I\u2019m happy to share what I\u2019ve learned \u2014 and which paths turned out to be blind alleys \u2014 but I\u2019m indifferent about whether you agree with me or not.<\/p>\n

Years ago, I remember realizing something about God and truth that has become a guiding principle for me. If God is truth \u2014 as I believe \u2014 then wherever I find truth, that\u2019s where God is. And that\u2019s true even if it conflicts with what confident people have told me I ought to believe.<\/p>\n

Truth is more important than my ego. It\u2019s more important than your opinion. It\u2019s more important than any dogma I was taught.<\/p>\n

Where I find some truth, I find God.<\/p>\n

That realization gave me permission to question things I had once been afraid to question. If something is really true, examining it isn\u2019t going to destroy me. And if something I believe turns out not to be true, I don\u2019t want to protect it simply because I\u2019ve believed it for a long time.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to defend a lie just because I once mistook it for truth.<\/p>\n

The hardest part has been realizing how much of what I thought I knew wasn\u2019t something I had discovered for myself. I had inherited a map of reality from other people. Some of it came from my family. Some came from schools. Some came from churches. Some came from the larger culture. Some came from people who meant well and were simply passing along the maps they had inherited from someone else.<\/p>\n

I followed that map because I didn\u2019t know the map was wrong. Doing that left me lost and confused.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the dangerous thing about false knowledge. A man who knows he\u2019s lost starts looking for the right path. A man who confidently believes his map is correct can keep walking in the wrong direction for years.<\/p>\n

I did plenty of walking in wrong directions.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s taken me many years to be ready to be the man I need to be. In some respects, that baffles me. It surprises me because I still don\u2019t know everything, and I still don\u2019t have everything figured out.<\/p>\n

But I finally understand that I don\u2019t need to have everything figured out.<\/p>\n

For most of my life, I thought wisdom meant having the right answers. Now I think it has far more to do with learning how to recognize truth \u2014 and being willing to abandon whatever gets in the way of seeing it.<\/p>\n

When we’re sincerely trying to learn the truth, we tend to think it’s just a matter of discovering some new piece of information. But I’ve slowly realized that learning the truth often involves chipping away falsehoods first \u2014 and my painful experience is that it’s harder to throw away things we’re already committed to believing than it is to adopt some new fact or truth.<\/p>\n

After all of this change, I still feel like a beginner.<\/p>\n

But I feel as though I\u2019m finally a beginner who knows where the path is. Before this, I was just a confused man wandering in the wilderness with a map that I didn\u2019t realize was wrong.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know exactly where this path leads. I don\u2019t know what else I\u2019m going to have to unlearn along the way.<\/p>\n

But I finally understand that finding truth sometimes requires more than learning something new.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we have to throw away the falsehoods that have kept us from seeing what was right in front of us all along.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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