Briefly

If you have children, it’s important to deal with how they might be feeling as they react to the fears of COVID-19 as the danger grows. There’s a lot of fear among adults right now, but children are even less equipped to handle fears they sense from adults around them. My friend Josh Whitman has experience doing a lot of things and one of them is school administration. Josh and his wife are raising two young sons of their own in a Birmingham suburb, and he’s been thinking a lot for the last few weeks about how this societal fear affects children. He’s written a short article giving some wise and insightful tips with concrete steps you can take to help your children during this time of crisis — things which might not have occurred to me — so I highly recommend it.

Times of crisis can teach us a lot about ourselves, if we’re willing to pay attention. The coronavirus pandemic right now is a good opportunity to learn from something terrible. A lot of people are scared at the moment and it’s hard to blame them, because it’s impossible to say how much worse things might get and who might be hit. But who do your thoughts turn to right now? Who’s on your mind? Who do you worry about? If you’ll pay attention to these questions — and answer honestly — you’ll tell yourself a lot about who you really love. Even if I can’t protect those few who I worry about, I know where my thoughts are. I know who I wish I could run away with to somewhere safe. I know who I wish I could protect. I know who I love. It’s a good exercise to reflect on this.

There are times, especially late at night — when all is silent except for the beating of my own heart — when I feel my ego become so calm that I feel neither ambition nor fear. In those moments, I know without doubt that I can become successful making the art I need to make. It’s the rest of the day — when I’m surrounded by other people’s voices — that I end up filled with hidden fears that no one will love me if I take chances, when I doubt myself enough to run from the things I feel compelled to do. Quieting the ego and tuning my spirit to something which Carl Jung might have called Collective Unconscious are my best ways to stay on the path toward making the dent in the Universe which I was put here to make. This is what I was getting at in the piece I wrote a few days ago about my need to be a star. As odd as it might sound, that’s faith talking, not ego.