It’s hard to believe that any book could have ever cost just 25 cents, much less one that could have survived since I was a tiny boy. I’m sometimes surprised by which things from my childhood have managed to stay with me for all these years, but I’m not surprised to still have “Good Night, Little Bear.” When I was the tiniest of little boys, this was my favorite book. I’m told that I used to carry it around with me. Everybody around me got tired of reading this story, but I asked for it over and over again. I was delighted by the question of whether the little bear was fooling Papa Bear. The story tickled my little brain with the concept of how people could fool one another but without the malice involved in lying. I think everybody can connect a little bit more with the child he or she once was by being able to touch and re-experience such things from their past. Such artifacts tell us a lot about where we came from and how we became what we are. This is something from childhood which makes me happy.
I can force child to obey me, but obedience comes with high cost
I don’t see how anyone can have a child without feeling terrified.
When you create a new human life, you are having the spirit and health and future of a completely independent person put into your hands. Even if your intentions are good, you can do long-term damage to the child.
You can follow the best advice you can find — from your family and friends and experts of the day — and still get it wrong in ways that leave someone hurt for life. No matter what you do, many people won’t approve of your parenting. If all this doesn’t terrify you, I’m not sure you ought to have a child.
When I was younger, I was scared to have children. When I was married in my late 20s and 30s, I didn’t feel ready. I didn’t quite know why, but I understand now that something in me was afraid of continuing the family patterns that had come down from the families of both of my parents.
Even while I was still struggling to understand my dysfunctional upbringing, I was determined not to do to my children what had been done to me.
Briefly: I’m really uncomfortable with treating life like a ‘reality TV’ show
A friend of mine got engaged today and she posted a dozen pictures from the proposal. (No, it’s not the one pictured here.) She and her fiancé went to a very remote and picturesque location — which would normally be quiet and deserted — but there was still someone to take a bunch of pictures of this very intimate moment. I seem to be the one who’s out of step with society on this point, but I am very uncomfortable with the degree to which we are turning our private lives into something that looks like “reality TV.” If this is what you want for your life, that’s your business. I’m not going to tell you you’re wrong. But I don’t want to live out my intimate moments for the world to share. I don’t want to be stage-managing the production of my life while I play a part for the world to watch later. If that’s the life you want, that’s your business, but when I am fortunate enough to ask a woman to marry me, it will be a moment of personal connection between that woman and me. The world will not be watching, then or later.

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