When I was a little boy, I went to sleep almost every night making up stories in my head. I was always the hero.
By the time I was old enough to start liking girls and wanting their attention — about fifth grade, it seems — my stories were mostly about being heroic for a girl. I had a crush on a classmate named Wendy, so she was the metaphorical princess and I was the knight on a white horse.
I didn’t understand it at the time, but I was setting a pattern for much of my life.
I wanted to feel special. I craved the attention and admiration of one woman. Over the years, the identity of that woman changed. of course. When I did something I thought might impress her, I wanted the crowds to love me, but only because that meant she would see.
I wanted her to think I was special. I wanted her to love me for that.

I am angry that life doesn’t work the way I once learned it should
Let’s reconnect with each other, not fall into dystopian Metaverse
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Conservatives have lost their way as few defend individual freedom
I’m waiting for life to begin, but I’m feeling lost and alone tonight
I’m trying to do something new — and I don’t know what to call it
Being alone allows us to indulge our worst flaws and avoid change
If Court reverses Roe v. Wade, we’re facing a social tsunami