About eight or nine years ago, I dated a woman for a few months who was a model. As you might expect, she was beautiful. She had a lovely face and a perfectly proportioned and perfectly sized body. The odd part? This physically perfect woman was a “plus-size model.”
Since I don’t pay attention to fashion or to modeling, I hadn’t consciously realized until then just how insane the world of modeling had become. I didn’t realize just how hideous most models are. And I didn’t realize just how warped most women’s images of their own bodies have become.
I’m thinking about this today because of publicity from a story in Plus Model magazine about the difference in size between mainstream models and plus-size models. The magazine argues that models small enough to work in mainstream modeling meet the definition of anorexic. I don’t know about that, but I do know that I almost never find those waifs attractive.
What I’ve become sure of is that women have very distorted images of their body size today. Is it from the anorexic girls they see presented to them as the examples of what women should look like? I have no idea. I’m just sure that the truth has become distorted beyond hope in many of them. I’m going to mention three examples of women I’ve known.
Quit using the word ‘masculinity’
Nobody has the right to a position in your life which you don’t want
I still have trouble accepting that my idealized world doesn’t exist
The right woman in a man’s life brings out the best he has to give
Why do so many of us stay where we know we’ll remain miserable?
Unexpected proposal leaves me pondering my craving to be loved
We never get enough of whatever lets us feel safe being ourselves
We learn how to make a living, but not how to make a good life