As much as I wanted to believe it once upon a time, technology is not neutral. A communications medium which becomes dominant at a given time shapes the culture in which it dominates, for good or bad. Books once shaped culture. Now it’s something else. Why do we obsess over politics and argue about it constantly? Only because 24-hour television needed an audience and taught people to care by generating controversy. Then the Internet came along. Social media has an unlimited “news hole” to fill, so everything became news. Before we knew it, everyone around us had been trained to obsess about the daily matches between Team Red and Team Blue. None of this would have happened without the need of television and the commercial Internet to capture attention for others’ profit. Almost everybody has become a slave to the needs of this technology — and most don’t even remember life before it was this way. Marshall McLuhan and Neil Postman were right.
Find the partner who needs you; don’t be someone’s backup plan
Most people don’t want you as a partner. A small percentage would take you if they see no better options at the moment. But there’s someone who believes you are his or her wish come true.
That person doesn’t have to make his or her mind up. That person sees your value and is willing to choose you without question. This is the person you should choose, not the person for whom you are a back-up plan. A second or third or fourth choice.
The person who’s right for you will pay almost any price to be with you. The person who’s not right will have a long list of conditions — and you will never meet all of the conditions, so that “love” will always be conditional.
That’s not real love. Don’t lie to yourself.
Briefly: Is it heroism or madness to stand against popular culture?
I find myself with too much to say and not enough time and energy to say it all lately. It feels as though I’m on the verge of understanding something that’s been eluding me — something that will change the ways in which I organize my life and the people I allow in my life. I had dinner tonight with a perfectly lovely woman who knows nothing of this site and whose interests are shallow. She’s clearly molded by the empty and clownish popular culture. She had no interest in anything which I find important. What possible place could she have in my life? Remember the Henrik Ibsen play, “An Enemy of the People”? It’s about a man who dares to speak a truth which is inconvenient to his fellow townsmen. He pays a price, but by the end of the play, he realizes that he is the strongest man in town — because he stands against the popular crowd for the truth. Is Dr. Stockmann a hero or a fool? I don’t know. I’m certain only that there are times when delivering a message the world needs to hear is more important than personal wealth or even the approval of those whose approval I need. As Jake and Elwood Blues would say, “We’re on a mission from God.”

Briefly: Join me tonight in watching ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’
Briefly: Here’s my promo video for Phase 1 of my realty company’s renovation
Briefly: Trump’s indifference isn’t hate; it’s even worse than that
We’re neither friends nor enemies, just strangers who share the past
‘This path leads to somewhere I think I can finally say, I’m home’
When love finally dies, it’s like a fever breaks and the pain is gone
Briefly: Socialists and other control freaks don’t understand how wealth is created
Briefly: Article about treatment for autistic kids brought angry emails
Briefly: I didn’t make a mistake, but belief that I had been wrong cost me sleep