As I sat for hours in the gridlock of traffic last week while Birmingham dealt with an unexpected ice storm, I had one question on my mind: Why haven’t I already moved to the Caribbean?
It sounds like a joke, but I was half serious. I’ve thought for a long time that I’d like to move to a Caribbean island. I have nothing except history tying me to Birmingham (or any other place). I’m tired of the cold that I experience for a few months in the winter. I’m tired of the humid southern summers. I’ve visited a dozen or so islands and I keep finding myself wanting to go back and stay.
So why was I creeping along — and getting trapped on — highways covered with enough ice to be skating rinks last week instead of living on a tropical island?
I could probably give you a dozen reasons. The cost of living is high. The opportunities to make money are more limited. There would be new cultures to learn, maybe even a new language in some places. I’d be leaving friends and familiar places behind. And on and on.
But the bottom line is far simpler. I simply haven’t been willing to commit to doing whatever it takes to make it happen. I’ve accepted the status quo because inertia was easier than committing to change.

What missed chances are you going to regret when it’s too late to change?
What would I do with my time if the money made no difference?
Why stay together? There’s nothing united about today’s United States
Sweet love story or tale of a sucker? Your bias creates narrative for you
We can’t really change people, even if they offer us the control
Until I can have the family I need, I’ll spend my Thanksgiving alone
‘Post-racial’ America? We’re nowhere close to that — and may never be
Regain your sanity by focusing only on things you can control