Few people intimidate me. I don’t seem to meet many who even impress me. But when I find a woman who intimidates me, I know I’d better pay attention. I might fall in love with her.
It started when I was a young teen. Girls had just been interesting classmates or neighborhood friends until then. And then I met one girl — near the beginning of the eighth grade — who left me nervous and speechless.
The boy who was trained to be socially charming was suddenly a babbling idiot when she was around.
I understand now that this is a common pattern for straight guys. As a boy gets old enough to be attracted to girls, something changes for him. Even if he’s always been confident, this rush of attraction and need overwhelms him. That’s the way it was for me. That’s the way I’ve heard others describe it.
What I didn’t realize was that this intimidation was always going to be the first stage of falling in love with a woman — no matter how old or sophisticated or confident I got.

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The more I understand humans, the less I believe we’ll ever all get along
Turn off the Outrage Machine; focus on things you can control
I’m the common denominator for all of my dysfunctional romances
For me, money always comes best when I’m pursuing higher purpose
Reaction to Googler’s memo says, ‘Diversity is good if you conform’
Obama’s plan to ‘tax the rich’ is simply class warfare — and politics
Friday’s article will be delayed