We’ve welcomed visitors from 57 countries and 48 U.S. states so far

By David McElroy · July 8, 2011

I’ve been pleasantly surprised at just how far-flung the audience for this site has been so far. It was just eight weeks ago today when I opened the digital doors to the place, but people have already made thousands of visits from 57 different countries around the world.

There have also been visitors from 48 of the 50 U.S. states, plus the District of Columbia. Vermont and South Dakota have been the only two U.S. states missing for weeks. What are you guys waiting for?

Even though I can’t personally identify who comes to visit or exactly where you’re coming from or anything of that nature, the system does give me general information. For instance, I know that the U.S. state sending the most visitors is Alabama, which makes sense considering that I live here and lots of people here known me.

After my home state, the top 10 U.S. states in numbers of visits so far have been Texas, New York, Florida, California, Tennessee, Ohio, Virginia, Indiana and Pennsylvania. (Massachusetts barely missed the cut.)

From around the world, here are the countries represented so far, in order of the number of visits: United States, Italy, United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, Paraguay, Ireland, Spain, India, Brazil, Germany, Mexico, New Zealand, Uruguay, Egypt, Russia, South Africa, Hong Kong, Switzerland, Netherlands, Argentina, Guatemala, Denmark, France, South Korea, Malaysia, Finland, Sweden, Serbia, Philippines, Portugal, Czech Republic, Nepal, Bahrain, Belgium, Taiwan, Indonesia, Ecuador, Lebanon, Hungary, Slovakia, Croatia, Romania, Fiji, Bolivia, Chile, Pakistan, Norway, Israel, Algeria, China, Costa Rica, Saudi Arabia, Poland, Bangladesh and Venezuela.

I have to be honest and tell you that I’ve been stunned and very, very happy to see you guys from far away from me. I mean, it’s one thing when my friends and family show up, because I can sort of guilt them into taking a look. But you folks in Fiji and Nepal and Slovakia weren’t high on my list of countries to expect visitors from. Thank you for proving that my vision was too small.

I sincerely appreciate everyone who’s taken the time to read anything I’ve written over the last eight weeks. Thanks to those who’ve clicked on ads along the way, because doing that — for things you’re interested in — contributes a few dollars through ad sales to pay the costs of the site. I also appreciate those of you who’ve made comments and sent me personal email. (If you’ve written and I haven’t replied, please forgive me. I’m behind on answering everyone.) It’s humbled me that enough people have cared about what I’m doing to check it out even once, much less come back again and again, as so many people have done.

I’ve been introduced to some amazing people because of this site and I’ve run into people who are just as interested as I am in changing the world for the better and building competitive governance in the post-statist world. I’m appreciative for the people I’ve met, and I’m looking forward to seeing who comes to my attention next.

Thank you for your support. I’m very grateful that you keep coming back. And if you know anyone in Vermont or South Dakota, ask ’em to log on here soon, please. I’d like to finish coloring in my map.

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