When I was younger, I cared a lot about other people thinking I was impressive. I hate to admit that, but it’s true. I had already started making inner changes before I saw her talk in 2012, but watching Brené Brown’s TEDx presentation about vulnerability was a profound turning point for me (I wrote about this in 2012.) A friend shared a link today which reinforced the idea that it’s far more important to be authentic than it is to be “impressive.” That would have made me nervous 10 years ago, but I’m able to live it now. I’ve made a conscious effort to unmask myself as much as is reasonably possible and that has had one positive effect I didn’t anticipate. Since my father was a narcissist, I’m vulnerable to falling into some of his patterns if I’m not careful. But being very open about such fears about my failings helps inoculate me against doing that, because it’s hard to have a sense of grandiosity if you’re vulnerable about your faults and struggles. Being authentic, open and honest with each other can be transformative. It can save your soul.
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