David McElroy

When I feel despair about the rest of the world being insane and irrational, I take comfort in the feeling that the greatest sanity and reason around me come in the form of cats and dogs.

They never lie — to us or to themselves — and they’re completely transparent about who and what they are.

When the humans around me seem to be doing their best to make the world a horrible place, I appreciate the love and consistency I experience from those such as Alex, who you see in my arms late Saturday night. He’s a great comfort to me on a night such as this, when the humans around me feel insane and irrational.

There are times when the evil in the world is so clear that it seems as though every person of good will must see it and recoil from it, but I know that isn’t true. Not yet.

But on this night when the evil and dishonesty of the powers around me are so incredibly clear — even more than usual — I feel despair about whether most people will ever again care about truth and decency and morality.

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For almost all of human history, survival itself required effort. Not ambition. Not self-actualization. Not fulfillment. Effort.

If you didn’t work, plan, improvise and endure, you didn’t eat. If you didn’t cooperate with others, you didn’t last long. If you weren’t resourceful, disciplined or at least lucky, your life ended early and harshly.

That reality shaped us. It shaped our bodies, our minds and our sense of who we were. For tens of thousands of generations, human beings learned something fundamental about themselves: I can do hard things — and my life is better because I did them.

That knowledge wasn’t philosophical. It wasn’t abstract. It was visceral. You could see it in the shelter you built, the crops you harvested, the animals you raised, the children you kept alive. Effort led to results, and results led to confidence. Self-esteem was not something you talked about. It was something you earned.

Then, slowly at first, and then very quickly, everything changed.

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I was the only patient left in the clinic. The receptionist and a nurse had nothing to do, so we had a great conversation for about 15 minutes. We talked about dogs and cats. We talked about families and relationships. We talked about what was important in life.

Finally, one of the young women asked me what I do for a living. I joked that I still haven’t decided what to do when I grow up, but I explained the different career paths I’ve taken over the years.

“I know exactly what you need to do,” said one of them.

“You need to become a therapist,” said the second. The first said that’s what she was thinking, too. Each seemed surprised that the other had come up with the same thing, especially since neither had met me before.

They made some flattering comments about why they thought I would make an effective therapist. I told them I had once considered it, but that I was far too lazy to go back to school for the training.

“I don’t know why I know this, but I just know you’re really trustworthy,” one of them said. “You just told me something about myself that I had never realized until you said it. That’s worth something to a lot of people.”

I appreciated their comments and I walked out of the office with a smile on my face. As I drove away, I couldn’t help but think about how often I’ve had similar conversations. Why does this keep coming up?

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