When most people demand “tolerance” of others, they really mean they insist that others accept their own positions — and then they’re outraged if positions contrary to their own are actually tolerated.
I keep thinking about that when I read about the gay activists who are leading obsessive boycotts of the fast food chain, Chick-fil-A. For decades, these same gay activists have demanded that everyone show toleration of their sexual orientation. There was a time when gays and lesbians were horribly mistreated by the law. We’re not living in that day, and it’s silly to pretend that we are. (I’ve argued that the state has no business defining marriage and dictating who can marry, so I’m not in a camp that wants to legally define marriage in any particular way.)
Activists are angry with Chick-fil-A because the private company’s owners have given money to Christian groups, some of which have favored efforts to legally define marriage as being between a man and a woman. The activists say this isn’t just a disagreement. No, it’s “hate,” they say. They don’t give any evidence that Chick-fil-A hates anyone. They simply define disagreement with their view as hatred. It’s hard to imagine a more insane twisting of what words really mean.

We like to think we’re complex, but personality gurus pegged me
My old fear of looking foolish is strong incentive to do good work
Being in love shows us who we can choose to be at our very best
Shame and Fear still stand guard over my efforts to chase dreams
Sweet love story or tale of a sucker? Your bias creates narrative for you
What’s the best word for those of us who just want to be left alone?
As the gods of this world die off, we face a profound crisis of faith
Why do tax dollars fund lavish lifestyles for bureaucrats?