Life is full of tradeoffs. If we choose one thing that we want, we tend to be forced to give up a degree of something else we also value. Being happy isn’t a matter of getting everything we want. It’s a matter of finding the right tradeoffs — deciding what matters most.
It seems as though most modern people have chosen — perhaps unconsciously — the path of accumulating material things over emotional connections with other people. So millions of them sit in their suburban “boxes” and wonder why they’re miserable, even though they’ve achieved what they thought they wanted.
I’m thinking about this because of an old song that someone introduced me to over the weekend. (Listen to the song at the end of the article.) Malvina Reynolds was a singer/songwriter and political activist in the ’60s. I doubt I would have agreed with many of her political positions, but I found myself strongly identifying with her song, “Little Boxes,” which satirizes the antiseptic and meaningless lives that she saw people living in suburban tract homes.
I’m of two minds about people who protest against this “little plastic life.” There’s a part of me that appreciates the standard of living we’ve come to have because of the standardization and mass production of our lives. A world in which everything was custom-built individually is a world where not nearly as many people can afford nice houses and other material things.
On the other hand, there’s a huge part of me that’s repulsed by the world those things have created.

Watching kids on a Friday night reminds me of struggle to belong
If there are exceptions to free speech, it’s not really free speech, is it?
My need to make others perfect reflects my fear I’m not in control

‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’
What if narcissistic vampire bit me but he never finished the job?
When we feel we’ve lost control, our behavior stops making sense
Anatomy of a dishonest political mailer from this week’s election