Whenever a person kills himself, the instant question that everyone seems to ask is, “Why did he do it?” I’m starting to suspect this is the wrong question.
When retired NFL star Junior Seau killed himself this week, the speculation immediately turned to the question of whether he might have been suffering from some kind of brain damage brought on by many years in a sport filled with violent collisions. Did that long-term trauma lead to his suicide?
I’m not an expert on brain injuries, but I don’t doubt that athletes in high-contact sports suffer injuries that affect them as they age. I wonder, though, if there’s a more basic reason why a retired athlete — who’s spent his life as a hero to many — takes his own life.
What if he simply can’t find any reason to keep on living?
I can’t find the reference now, but I remember reading something in a psychology book that made this argument. It said that we all have something like a built-in “self-destruct switch.” The switch constantly flips itself automatically to “self-destruct mode.” If we have a reason to keep living, we keep flipping it off. But if we quit finding a reason to do that, we passively leave the switch set to that mode — and then we destroy ourselves in one way or another.
My bad teen poetry suggests I’ve always hungered for missing love
When did someone decide we have the legal right not to be offended?
Is anti-gay adoption article in paper free speech or hate speech?
End of life brought cancer patient to baptism six days before death
Suicide ends pain of depression, but scars loved ones left behind
Life is too short to hide the love you would regret hiding at death
Why do we stay in prison when there’s no lock holding us there?
After his death, I can finally see good in narcissistic father again
We’re all prisoners of a culture which demands that we conform