When I was in college, I had a good friend who was struggling with his sexuality. He and I had gone to church together for years, and he eventually started having more conversations with me about the morality of homosexuality. He never said he was struggling with his own identity, but it was obvious.
After college, he joined the Army and became a Green Beret, which was a shock to all of us who had known him as an artistic and laid back guy. He was in the Army for a couple of enlistments and did quite well.
He also “came out” as gay while he was in the Army. A number of the other soldiers knew it and some proportion of them were gay, too. Everybody knew it, apparently. Regardless how you feel about whether sexual orientation is a matter of choice or not, I can’t figure out why it has anything to do with whether someone is capable of taking a job that requires him to kill people or fulfill other specific jobs to support people who kill people. It’s just not relevant to the job.
I was a terrible preacher, because cookie-cutter truth seemed empty
After his death, I can finally see good in narcissistic father again
Spoiled brat sues White Castle because he can’t fit into a booth
Good character matters far more than winning political arguments
Conservatives have lost their way as few defend individual freedom
Police won’t do their job, but they’ll ticket you for doing it for them
Fear and shame can leave us in a fog that destroys relationships
Fear of intimacy causes confused people to run from love they need