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What role does shame play in turning kids from lives of crime?

By David McElroy · January 14, 2012

An Indiana mother is upset that her 14-year-old son keeps getting into trouble with the law, so she’s trying a new tactic. She shamed her son this week by requiring him to stand on a street corner wearing a sign proclaiming his transgressions. (See video below.)

Is this effective punishment that might turn a child around? Or is it small-minded shaming that will only damage him? Or something else?

Dynesha Lax of Fort Wayne, Ind., says that the juvenile court system was of no use in helping to get her son under control, so she believes extreme measures were called for. The boy has been convicted of multiple felonies and Lax claims the court system hasn’t done anything to effectively punish him.

“He constantly chooses to break the law,” Lax said. “I’ve had my son in the [juvenile court] system and he ends up getting nothing but community service. So today I decided that if he wants attention, we are going to get him some attention.”

Some people who saw the situation called police to report Lax, although it’s not clear what law they believed Lax was breaking. Still, it’s understandable that people would be uncomfortable with this sort of public shaming of a minor.

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Financially struggling woman jailed over unpaid fine for junky yard

By David McElroy · January 13, 2012

If people can tell you what to do with your own property, do you really own it? Or do you just get to use your property as long as you do things with it that the majority like? A financially struggling South Carolina woman found out that her neighbors’ complaints about her yard can send her to jail.

Linda Ruggles is a photographer who lives in a suburb of Charleston, S.C., and her photography business has fallen on hard times recently. She lost her photo studio to foreclosure and she almost lost her home to foreclosure last year. She now works part-time as a cashier at a grocery store, and she sold her blood, collected scrap metal and volunteered for medical experiments to come up with the money to barely keep her home.

The roof of her house leaks, so she was able to buy some roofing tiles, but she hasn’t yet been able to come up with the money to pay roofers to install them, so they’ve been sitting on her roof waiting to be put on for three years. Her yard has some junk, including some columns that need to be installed on her porch.

Her neighbors aren’t happy. After they complained to the local municipal government, she was issued a fine for $480 — which she can’t afford to pay. “I told everyone, ‘If I had $480 to pay the fine, I’d fix the roof,'” she told the Charleston Post and Courier.

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Forced sterilization gets to heart of arrogant progressive agenda

By David McElroy · January 12, 2012

The progressive Left has always seen itself as the high-minded reformers of the world. They’ve always been the moralists who stood for what was right. Those who opposed them were seen as evil and selfish. So why do they ignore the evil in their own roots?

When we talk about eugenics and forced sterilization to control the purity of a country’s people, our thoughts turn to Nazi Germany. But how many Americans understand that the progressives had been successful in getting eugenics laws passed in more than half the states — before the Nazis ever even came to power? What’s even worse is that the Nazis seem to have gotten the idea from Americans.

All of this comes up this week because a state panel in North Carolina has just recommended paying compensation of $50,000 each to people who were sterilized against their will. I find it interesting that none of the news stories seem to be mentioning that it was the progressive Left behind these programs starting in the early 20th century. I don’t think it’s an intentional omission. I just think it’s a part of history that the progressives have buried deeply — and few understand how deeply something such as forced sterilization is emblematic of what progressives really stand for.

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Alex and Sam are already asleep, but Oliver is han Alex and Sam are already asleep, but Oliver is hanging out in my lap late Sunday night.
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I just got home at midnight and found all three of I just got home at midnight and found all three of the cats sound asleep. Alex is at the top of the castle and he’s now sat up to start giving me the cold stare to make it clear that his dinner is very late — and he’s not happy about it. He’s sleepy and he’s hungry, but hunger is going to win.
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If you have problems with high blood pressure, I’d like to encourage you to consider making serious changes to your diet. There might be some people who don’t have any choice but to start taking prescription medications for high blood pressure, but I’d like to tell you that I have completely eliminated my issue by eliminating all sugar and almost all carbohydrates. (A couple of months ago, my blood pressure hit 185/144, which was dangerously high — considered stage 3 hypertension.) By completely changing my eating habits, I’m down 22 pounds and my blood pressure is now in the “ideal” range — without taking any medication. In addition, I sleep better and I have more energy. Getting away from the sugar-laden mess that we generally refer to as “highly processed food” has been a life-changer for me. Now my challenge is to avoid slipping back into old habits — by eating in the dangerous ways that almost everyone in our society has come to see as normal.

When I first heard about this, I thought it must be satire. When I discovered it was real, I was appalled, but I still thought it must be a one-time thing from some nutty activist. But it turns out it’s the latest bit of pandering to a bunch of far-left activists who believe that a man can become a woman if he decides to claim he’s a woman. As everybody knows, men have prostate glands. Women do not. Period. End of story. Men can get prostate cancer. Women cannot. But political activists are so eager to pretend that a man claiming to be a “trans woman” is really a woman that they are insisting that “women” be included in public health messages about the issue. This is nothing but political virtue-signaling. If you’re a man, you know which parts you have. You know that you ought to be screened. Nobody is made any safer by dragging far-left gender ideology into simple medical reality.

Every time someone tries to tighten requirements around the use of absentee ballots, I hear screams from Democrats and others on the political left that such efforts are nothing but “suppression of black voters.” These protests have never made sense to me, especially because it’s never been a secret that absentee ballot fraud goes on all the time in certain areas. (Everybody knew it when I worked in politics.) The people who engage in such fraud are rarely caught — often because the local political establishment approves of the crime — but a Democrat who won a primary election in Clay County, Alabama, last year has pleaded guilty to this sort of cheating. Terry Andrew Heflin was running for a place on the Clay County Commission. He was caught ordering seven absentee ballots in the names of various voters and sending them to his post office box — after which he used the ballots to vote absentee for himself seven time. Did he have other people cast additional fraudulent ballots? We’ll never know. But in a primary in which he was able to win with only 141 votes, it wouldn’t take many fraudulent votes to change the election. The next time you hear “civil rights activists” claim that it’s just “voter suppression” to hurt blacks which is at the root of efforts to stop this fraud, remember Terry Heflin. If you care about fair and honest elections, ballot security and voter identity should matter to you.

A state legislator in Maine has been stripped of the ability to speak in the state Legislature — and her votes are not being counted on legislative issues — all because she made a truthful social media post. Rep. Laurel Libby (R-Auburn, Maine) opposes allowing boys to compete against girls’ teams in school athletics and she’s become known for making an issue of it. On Feb. 17, she posted on Facebook about a recent example that she found outrageous. She posted side-by-side photos of a boy named John who competed last year in a state track event and won fifth place against other boys two years ago — and a photo of the same boy (now called Katie) who won first place in the same event this year against girls. Whether you find this outrageous or not, Libby is clearly being honest and truthful about the objective facts of an issue of public importance. But the state Legislature censured her. Democrats decreed that she could not speak in the House and that her votes would not count on legislation — until she apologized for the outrage of telling the truth. She refused and her constituents have been unrepresented in the state House since then. The people who promote this ideology are out of touch with reality and won’t rest until they force the rest of us to join them in this delusion. But even if you agree with “trans” ideology, you should be appalled at this heavy-handed attack on political speech.

The late Steve Jobs was at the center of our culture’s transition from analog to digital. He co-founded Apple Computer. He led the team that revolutionized personal computing with the first Macintosh. As CEO of Apple, he led the development of the iPhone and later the iPad. You would think the children of such a man would be surrounded by technology. But Jobs and his wife Laureen didn’t let their children use iPads. Their home had few screens of any kind. Even though Jobs spent most of his time developing and selling Macs and iPhones and iPads, he was home with his wife and children for dinner when he was in town. The family ate together at a simple wooden table in their kitchen — and there were no digital devices or focus on popular culture. Instead, he’s said to have guided his family toward deep discussions of art, philosophy and education — with no iPads to be found. If the man who guided the development of such products chose a different path for his own children, does that suggest that his digital experience taught him that children need human connection, not screens? And does it suggest the possibility that we might be better off if we made the same choice for our families?

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