Few people intimidate me. I don’t seem to meet many who even impress me. But when I find a woman who intimidates me, I know I’d better pay attention. I might fall in love with her.
It started when I was a young teen. Girls had just been interesting classmates or neighborhood friends until then. And then I met one girl — near the beginning of the eighth grade — who left me nervous and speechless.
The boy who was trained to be socially charming was suddenly a babbling idiot when she was around.
I understand now that this is a common pattern for straight guys. As a boy gets old enough to be attracted to girls, something changes for him. Even if he’s always been confident, this rush of attraction and need overwhelms him. That’s the way it was for me. That’s the way I’ve heard others describe it.
What I didn’t realize was that this intimidation was always going to be the first stage of falling in love with a woman — no matter how old or sophisticated or confident I got.

I need to communicate meaning, but my words vanish into a void
Taxing ‘the rich’ more not only wouldn’t work, but it’s not fair
I feel despair about evil tonight, but my cats offer some comfort
What would you say if you could talk with your 12-year-old self?
Listen as Aya Katz interviews me live about my close furry friends
I never wanted to be ‘cool,’ but I wanted people to understand me
Slow death of painful past leaves me trapped in fog of depression
This is my private confessional; the truths I write often scare me