David McElroy

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David McElroy

Sometimes we don’t really notice perfect match ’til it’s far too late

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I got a love letter of sorts tonight.

It was really just a Facebook message from a married woman who’s a friend, but it’s not what it sounds like. She wasn’t suggesting a secret tryst or anything of that sort. Instead, she was just lamenting that she didn’t pay more attention to me before she got married — to the wrong man.

I met Amanda online at least 15 years ago. We met in person a couple of times, but there was no real spark between us, so we never dated. We eventually became Facebook friends and I’ve watched as she moved through life — with career success and then marriage. She hadn’t reached out to me for many years.

But it turns out that she’s been watching me, even though I didn’t know it. And even though she has no intention of leaving her husband — and he doesn’t know she’s unhappy — she wanted me to know that she wishes she had noticed more about me before it was too late.

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Briefly: Busybodies force Disney to drop Siamese cats from ‘Lady and the Tramp’

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Busybodies with bad ideas are destroying modern culture with their constant claims of being offended. More people need to point out — clearly and politely — that many of the ideas of the outraged are moronic and need to be ignored. I’m sick of a tiny politically motivated group of people pushing their views so aggressively that others end up kowtowing to them to avoid their wrath. Disney is the latest company to back down in the face of idiots. In the 1955 film, “Lady and the Tramp,” two of the most memorable characters are a couple of conniving Siamese cats. They were great, and if you know cats, you know they were being portrayed the way some cats — including Siamese — are frequently seen in real life. Social justice warriors have claimed that the cats reinforce stereotypes of Asian characters as conniving and duplicitous. Does anybody understand these are cats, not Asian people? If you think Asians are conniving, that’s on you; it’s not because of a couple of wonderful cartoon cats.

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Becoming who we’re meant to be is the hardest battle of our lives

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When I look at who I was in the past, I barely recognize myself.

It doesn’t matter how far back I go. The only constant has been change. There are times when I feel happy about that, because I think I’m a better person than I was as a college student (such as in this photo) or a young newspaper editor or as a publisher or as a political consultant.

When I look back at myself in the days when I filled those various roles, I know I’ve grown tremendously. I’ve learned more about myself. I’ve learned to love other people better. I’ve gained enough wisdom to see through things which I blindly believed because my culture had told me to believe them.

I feel good about coming as far as I’ve come. And yet there are times — such as right now — when I wonder if I’ll ever become the person I’m supposed to be.

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