When I was in college, I had a good friend who was struggling with his sexuality. He and I had gone to church together for years, and he eventually started having more conversations with me about the morality of homosexuality. He never said he was struggling with his own identity, but it was obvious.
After college, he joined the Army and became a Green Beret, which was a shock to all of us who had known him as an artistic and laid back guy. He was in the Army for a couple of enlistments and did quite well.
He also “came out” as gay while he was in the Army. A number of the other soldiers knew it and some proportion of them were gay, too. Everybody knew it, apparently. Regardless how you feel about whether sexual orientation is a matter of choice or not, I can’t figure out why it has anything to do with whether someone is capable of taking a job that requires him to kill people or fulfill other specific jobs to support people who kill people. It’s just not relevant to the job.
I’m not certain artists ever get to be themselves when they perform
Without courage to take action, day will come when it’s too late
Good relationships need intimacy, but do they have to include sex?
How terrified would your child self have been of your current adult life?
Vulnerability is scary, but failure to be open guarantees loss of love
My father’s narcissistic abuse led to my mother’s attempt to kill him
Part of me loves you dearly, but warring parts are hostile or afraid
Meeting with dead man left me pondering choices of life, death