Women, you perpetuate this by reproducing with these lewd jerks

It’s just another random message-board discussion among crude and nasty men. There’s nothing special about it, because it goes on all the time. It’s sleazy and vile guys — old enough to know better — talking with gusto about “banging sluts.”

And every time I see such filth, I am livid.

I ran across yet another example of this on a sports message board late Monday night. It was a three-page thread about which universities of the Southeastern Conference have the “sluttiest” female students. By the standards of such discussions, this one wasn’t among the worst. But the attitude it betrays — that these men believe women are “sluts” to be hunted for their lustful conquest — is far too pervasive.

I am sick of living in a world where this is considered acceptable behavior.

Many men grow up accepting that good guys have as many sexual conquests as possible — and they see the women they conquer as sluts. Even more sickening, many women grow up in a culture that accepts this and tolerates it. They come to accept it as normal.

Worst of all, women knowingly marry these vile creatures and have children with them — pushing this sleazy cycle into another generation.

By the time you meet one of these guys, he’s learned to pretend he’s reformed. If he wants to settle down and get married, he wants to dispense with the “sluts” and marry a “nice girl.” If that’s you, he might even pretend to be sorrowful for his past — but this sort of attitude rarely changes. You don’t really believe his expressions of sorrow for his past deeds, do you?

If you’re as sickened by this sort of behavior as I am — this complete devaluation of women — you’re a fool for believing that it really changes. You can read the sorts of things these men say among themselves and ask yourself whether they would ever tell their wives or daughters what they really think. Here’s an example.

“I’ve had lots of luck with Auburn and UK women over the years,” one man wrote. “Auburn women are usually dumb as dirt and looking for a husband or serious boyfriend, so they’re easy to play. UK women are hot as frick and like to get sloppy drunk and get naked. Not many natural blondes at UK though.”

Various men had different opinions about where it was easiest to hunt for such “sluts.” And these are the sorts of men who now have wives and sons and daughters. How honest do you suppose they’re being at home about who they really are?

If their wives know they have this sort of past, they’ve shown the necessary remorse, unless they’re the sort who openly prefer “slutty” wives. Yes, there are men like that. They encourage their wives to dress in sexually provocative ways simply because it makes them feel powerful to parade the women they “own” — and let other men wish they had them. They won’t tell you this, of course.

What do you suppose their sons learn from these men? Do you suppose they’re capable of teaching them to respect women? Or do you think they’re privately telling their sons how “real men” act while they’re “sowing their wild oats”?

What do you suppose daughters ultimately get from these sort of men? Yes, these fathers want to hurt any boy who gets close to their daughter — because they assume all men are like what they were — but they know what “real men” are like, so their attitudes toward their daughters — even their defense of them — is more about a sense of ownership than about respect and decency.

Some people want to tell you that this is a problem that requires us to teach boys and girls to be feminists, but that is a political point of view. This isn’t about feminism. It’s nothing political.

This is about decency. Pure and simple.

Women, if you want this to stop, you have to quit choosing these men. Until you have higher standards for yourself — and have higher standards for what you want for your children — this is the sort of culture we will continue to live with.

I don’t know how to change these men’s attitude — and I honestly don’t think their attitudes are ever going to change. Why would it? Their experience has shown them that they can treat women as sexual objects when it pleases them and then pay no price when they want a “nice” wife and family.

As long as you choose to marry such men — and remain with them — you will continue to perpetuate this vile culture. These overgrown little boys won’t stop until their evil game no longer gets them what they want.

Note: I’m intentionally not linking to this piece I saw Monday night. There are thousands of others like it out there if you want to find them and I have no interest in giving additional ad clicks to the message board operators who tolerate this.