I hate Mother’s Day and I hate Father’s Day. For many people, they’re sweet and nostalgic days to remember and appreciate parents who meant a lot to them. For me, they’re nothing but emotional turmoil and regret.
If you look in the dictionary next to the phrase “dysfunctional family,” there’s a picture of my family. There were five of us. In addition to my parents, I had two younger sisters. We were born just two years apart, so we were like three little stair steps. (That’s me with my mother around the time of my second birthday.)
My mother was very intelligent, artistic, funny and sensitive. She was a free spirit who didn’t even hear the drumbeat of the rest of the world as she marched to her own. She was oblivious to anything except following her own heart. In college, she had been selected as one of the “beauties” for the yearbook — back in the days when they used to do that — at the teachers’ college where she and my father both went to school. She was wildly popular and widely loved.
My mother was too sensitive to be married to my father. I didn’t understand it at the time, but his strict and controlling nature drove her to a mental breakdown. They were nothing alike in temperament or habits or much of anything else, but he insisted that his way was right about everything. He pushed and manipulated and controlled and cajoled to force her to be exactly what he was.
Obama administration wants to choose skin color of your neighbors
Different groups have different ideas about what ‘our country’ means
What did you want in childhood? Did you abandon those dreams?
In praise of the weirdos who most people don’t really seem to like
Hawks in both Iran and U.S. playing dangerous games leading to war
Corrupt Trump isn’t even hiding half-billion dollar bribe anymore
Shame of not being perfect comes with every new thing I try to do
As we enjoyed the sunset together, language and borders didn’t matter
Was I ‘fat’? ‘Lazy’? My father’s ugly words made me feel shame