You can’t live halfway between love and indifference. One or the other has to win in the end.
I’ve been thinking about this more and more lately because I continue to struggle to love in the ways I’d like to. A year ago this week, I wrote something fairly long about love in the broadest sense — and it’s something I’m still trying to come to terms with.
The natural way of this world is to ultimately experience something worse than hate. It’s for indifference, but it’s broader than that. The way of the world leads to a cold, hardened and callous heart. Hate can sometimes be part of it, but in its most extreme form, it’s indifference and a complete lack of feeling anything.
I believe we ultimately face two choices.
On one side, there is turmoil, anger, envy and judgment. Most “realistic people” — who have had their hearts hardened by disappointment in others — default to living closer to hate than to love, but ultimately they settle into a cold indifference.

‘I know who you are,’ she said. ‘Do you know who you really are?’
To unlock your heart for real love, you must embrace vulnerability
Goodbye, Emily (2009-2015)
Those of us eager to meet Jesus aren’t eager to depart this world
We forget how to be happy, but children and animals remember
Tribal hatreds around me mean detour on road to personal peace
If ‘bigots’ can lose their rights, will your rights be next to go?
Barbarians with evil ideas taking our entire culture off deadly cliff
Without the state, who would plow roads? We and our neighbors will