I met Titus late Friday afternoon. He’s just 2 days old, but he’s already a miracle.
Titus is the first child of my neighbors, a young doctor and his wife, who’s a nurse. Even though they’re both in the medical profession and understand the process very clinically, it’s been obvious how their coming child was affecting them emotionally. They were excited and I’ve been excited to watch them go through it.
Jennifer wasn’t due to give birth until Sept. 9, but she told me weeks ago that she was certain the baby would be here by the end of August. She was right.
When I saw Ben Tuesday evening, he was carrying clothes to the car. He told me that Jennifer was already at the hospital and would be induced starting late that night, with delivery for sometime the next day. He was just grabbing a few things they might need. As I watched him drive off, I found myself feeling excited and nervous for them.
They came home sometime Thursday afternoon, but I didn’t see either of them until Ben was outside Friday afternoon when I pulled into my own driveway.
He told me Jennifer was fine and that it was a boy named Titus. (They had intentionally not known whether it was a boy or a girl.) Titus was in a window when I saw him. He had been placed into the sun’s rays for warmth.

When does healthy love become nothing but unhealthy obsession?
I’m trying to do something new — and I don’t know what to call it
Why did I really feel annoyed? They were happy; I was jealous
How much of what we do is driven by our unconscious social scripts?
Appeals to ‘common sense’ are frequently excuses to avoid thinking
Life cycles sometimes bring us back to places where we’ve been
How we live our lives can allow us to redeem dark family history
The child in me never learned to feel at home as part of a group
You’re not going to understand me as I want to be understood