My crime was slight, but my father was filled with rage. While he was out of town, I had used the record player in our living room. I was about 8 years old. My mother had been there and the four of us — my two sisters, Mother and me — had wanted to listen to some music.
It was some sort of silly, child-like music. I can remember us dancing around the living room — all four of us — having a joyful time.
Then my father came home.
Somehow, he found out that I had used the record player. He had told me numerous times that I wasn’t allowed to use the record player, because I might scratch a record. I could even damage the needle. Or something terrible, apparently.
He flew into a rage and screamed at me. I stood quietly, just as I always did. I picked a button on his shirt to concentrate on. I was required to look at him, but I wasn’t allowed to say anything or show any response. That was the unspoken rule. Most of all, I couldn’t dare talk back or show any hint of anger.

We’re neither friends nor enemies, just strangers who share the past
‘This path leads to somewhere I think I can finally say, I’m home’
When love finally dies, it’s like a fever breaks and the pain is gone
How do we start over and give ourselves parenting we needed?
I don’t really hate you, honest; I’m just afraid you may hurt me
I’m losing need to explain myself to those who misunderstand me
Barack Obama’s effort to imitate FDR’s ’36 campaign full of danger
Tradeoffs about values leave me feeling like ‘double-minded man’