When I was young, I wanted to be great. I wanted to be important, successful and powerful. I wanted to be put onto a pedestal, where I could get the adulation and approval I craved.
I wouldn’t have put it that way then, of course. I just thought I wanted the things my culture presented as normal goals for someone like me. (I understand now the degree to which being raised by a narcissistic father left me craving approval and attention.)
As I’ve gotten more emotionally healthy and psychologically mature, I’ve been surprised to find out that my desires in life have changed. It’s not that I’ve “given up.” It’s not that I’m settling for something easy after failing to achieve things I wanted.
My desires today are healthier and far more likely to make me happy. You see, I want to be ordinary. I want to be a good man. I want to be kind and loving and content with the joy of living an ordinary human life.
But I’ve recently discovered a fascinating paradox. As an ordinary man, I won’t have the things this world and our culture have always promised me. I won’t have wealth or power or adulation. But it turns out that the people who gain what the world and our culture promise won’t have what I have.
They won’t have the peace and contentment and joy of a man who’s living a simple and ordinary life.
Our self-deception is attempt to justify whatever we do to others
If you grow accustomed to abuse, you eventually accept it as normal
Baby girl murdered by own father is reminder to stay away from abusers
Maybe it’s easier to do hard things when nobody says they’re difficult
You have to do your own thing, even when crowds don’t ‘get it’
Until I can have the family I need, I’ll spend my Thanksgiving alone
Dems, GOP name Charlotte Clinton and future Bush baby for 2056
Change sometimes happens slowly, not in the grand leap that we want
Slow arrival of better financial days makes me appreciate painful times
