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When a narcissist wants to keep getting his way in the lives of his victims, he or she often manipulates other people to pressure you to give them what they want. Those people are called “flying monkeys.”

Flying monkeys are often busybodies who are eager to pass judgments about things they don’t understand. They typically believe whatever the manipulative narcissist has told them — and they see themselves as agents of good who are out to help the poor, innocent narcissist.

Sometimes they’re trying to force you to come back to people who are abusive and dangerous to you. Other times, they can actually be trying to hurt you, because they can be trying to help the narcissist get revenge against the terrible people who have hurt him or her so much.

And flying monkeys tend to feel very self-righteous about what they’re doing, because the narcissist has them convinced that he or she is the victim. In the mind of the flying monkey, the narcissist is the victim and you are the one who is completely in the wrong.

This is the next in a series of videos dealing with issues that come up for me to think about as I write a book about my childhood experience of growing up with a narcissistic father. You can visit that YouTube channel to subscribe to future videos. (Liking and subscribing help me quite a bit in helping others to see the videos.) Or you can watch this video below.

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I regret a lot of things about my narcissistic father’s death, but all the things which I regret were things over which I had no control. Contrary to his repeated manipulative predictions, I regret nothing about finally standing up for myself and insisting that I be treated with respect and decency.

I wish I could have kept the respect and love I had had for him when I was a child. I wish I could have seen to it that his death came with dignity. But the things which led to that lonely death in a hospital room with a stranger were all of his own choosing.

I regret much about the things he chose for himself, but I have absolutely no regrets about finally walking away from his repeated abuse. I just wish he could have understood the truth about himself.

This is the next in a series of videos dealing with issues that come up for me to think about as I write a book about my childhood experience of growing up with a narcissistic father. You can visit that YouTube channel to subscribe to future videos. (Liking and subscribing help me quite a bit in helping others to see the videos.) Or you can watch this video below.

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There were times when my father was loving and good to us, but we never knew when he was going to turn into a raging and dangerous monster.

We typically weren’t subjected to serious violent abuse, but when he turned into the angry monster — who I nicknamed “the Ogre” when we were young — the psychological abuse was damaging in a very different way.

This is the story of one of those terrifying days — something that my sisters and I came to refer to as the “who-moved-the-belt incident.” There’s no reason that anyone should have to live with this level of abusive control, but it’s especially damaging to young children — who don’t understand that this behavior isn’t normal.

This is the next in a series of videos dealing with issues that come up for me to think about as I write a book about my childhood experience of growing up with a narcissistic father. You can visit that YouTube channel to subscribe to future videos. (Liking and subscribing help me quite a bit in helping others to see the videos.) Or you can watch this video below.

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