I’ve heard variations of this story three times over the last month.
About three weeks ago, a friend told me he was taking a vacation to relax. I asked where he and his wife were going.
“Are you kidding?” he asked. “That would defeat the whole purpose. I can’t be myself around her. Me and some guy friends are going to Colorado.”
Another situation was a wife who admitted she can’t wait for her husband to leave town every time he goes on a business trip. The third was a guy going on a family vacation — with his parents and siblings — and leaving his wife behind, by mutual choice, because they don’t enjoy each other’s company anymore.
I sometimes hear people say it can be healthy to spend time away from a spouse. I’m not sure I agree that it’s ever positive, but I’m certain it’s negative if you’re doing it because you simply can’t stand to spend time with the person you married.
If you need a vacation from your spouse, that’s a sign of something disturbing. Maybe you’re married to the wrong person.