When I saw Ryan Friday evening, I knew he was upset. He was just getting to work, but he looked beaten and angry. He sat down to tell me his story.
Ryan’s a young guy who went to buy a car Friday. He took slightly more than $2,000 to a dealership to buy a car that costs about $10,000. After test driving the car and agreeing to a price, he filled out all the paperwork — only to be told at the end that he didn’t make enough money, even though he works full time and has a good record.
He was hurt and angry. It wasn’t just that he needed a car. He felt that he had done everything he’s been told he’s supposed to do as a young adult in this society, but he’s not finding the opportunities he expected — and he’s hearing “no” often enough that he’s getting frustrated. And his frustration is turning to anger.
Need for love drives behaviors; for me, old needs make me eat
What if world is becoming a place where you no longer want to live?
Creating work that I’m proud of gives me elusive feelings of joy
Our self-deception is attempt to justify whatever we do to others
Do you believe you’re free? Slavery by any other name is still slavery
‘The moment we begin to seek love, love begins to seek us and save us’
What if we’re more talented than our inner fears allow us to admit?
Self-compassion is difficult when harsh inner judge condemns you