I found myself involved in a couple of online debates Monday that I wasn’t happy about. In both cases, someone who disagrees with me attacked me personally about that disagreement. In both cases, I felt attacked personally and responded more harshly than I meant to. I avoid those kinds of arguments these days, so they both upset me — partly at the other people, but partly at myself.
Both of the debates were about military action around the world. The specifics don’t matter, but in both cases, the other person was attacking the idea that the United States has behaved inappropriately with some military actions around the world in the last decade or so. (In one of the cases, the woman called those of us who opposed her position “dissenters,” as though that was a vile thing to be.) The truth is that arguments such as these don’t end up being about the subjects themselves. The arguments end up very personal. They end up between two people (or more) who have very different views of the world — and it’s about each trying to convince the other than his model of reality is the correct one.
How in the world can we deal with humans living together when we see the world in so many different ways? And does it have to be this way?

Every addiction is heart’s effort to fill inner hole that requires love
You have to do your own thing, even when crowds don’t ‘get it’
How can a child process seeing his mother trying to stab father?
Worshiping the ‘lesser evil’ will always allow evil to rule over you
Genuine love is always extreme — and it rarely makes any sense
Tough problem: What does a free society do about unfit parents?
Federal ‘help’ makes medical care more expensive and less available
How can we be lonely while we’re surrounded by billions of people?
Jobs are created from ‘selfish’ acts; they don’t just exist on their own