It was about 10 p.m. Wednesday. I was taking my nightly walk through my quiet suburban neighborhood when I realized that something seemed wrong at a house just ahead.
I couldn’t tell what was going on, but I heard the low murmur of voices that didn’t sound happy. There was a car that seemed to be about half packed. The trunk and the doors were open. It was dark, so I couldn’t see much, but I knew there were people in the driveway.
I heard the low sound of a child sobbing. Then I heard a man’s voice. He wasn’t shouting or angry, but the voice was firm.
“I don’t want Mommy to leave, Amber, but that’s her choice.”
The soft, muffled sobbing continued. Then I was far enough past that I couldn’t hear what else might have been said.
And with that, I was a child again — just for a few minutes — reliving similar scenes from my own dysfunctional family’s past. Even though it’s been decades since I experienced those things, I could feel the feelings as if they were fresh. Hurt. Fear. Anger. Betrayal. Confusion. Mostly fear that I was being abandoned, although the child-size version of me didn’t have had the words to call it that.

From hole I’ve fallen into today, world is a very alienating place
Sane people change systems with ideas, not by murdering people
False dichotomy: Your choice isn’t coercive state vs. lawlessness
Check out Aya Katz’s interview with me about art and culture
It’s a very old cliche, but it’s true: Denial isn’t just a river in Egypt
Why do presidents and candidates bother to release tax returns?
Obama’s delusion about ‘explaining’ illustrates all-too-common narcissism
Was I ‘fat’? ‘Lazy’? My father’s ugly words made me feel shame
Time is the most unrelenting enemy that any of us will face