Why do people remain in situations in which they’re unhappy? Why do people hate their jobs, but remain there? Why do people in miserable marriages remain, frequently producing children to join in the dysfunction? And why do people who see the sickness of a failing political system remain loyal to it rather than look for alternatives?
I suspect it’s largely because people have trouble dealing with uncertainty. They might be miserable with what they have, but they’re unwilling to give it up until they have proof that the alternative is better. They’re scared to step out into the uncertainty of taking a chance and they’re scared to have faith that they can build something better.
It’s uncertainty that makes people terribly uncomfortable with certain situations and even certain art. In the work of M.C. Escher, we see a perfect example. Instead of painting normal and understandable things in the world around us, this brilliant Dutch artist created works that feel uncomfortable to many people, because much of it feels contradictory and uncertain, such as the example above. (Which way is the water flowing, anyway? How can what you’re looking at even exist?)
The things we regret the most show us what we really value
If you don’t feel overwhelmed, you just aren’t paying attention
Living behind a mask means you won’t allow real self to be loved
If you think world is about logic, you misunderstand human nature
Friend’s happy family and career remind me how good life can be
Odd interest in UK’s royal family suggests remnant of need for ruler
Student scolded for saving a life; School doesn’t ‘condone heroics’
Slow death of painful past leaves me trapped in fog of depression
The love we give abandoned animals can actually rescue us