When most people demand “tolerance” of others, they really mean they insist that others accept their own positions — and then they’re outraged if positions contrary to their own are actually tolerated.
I keep thinking about that when I read about the gay activists who are leading obsessive boycotts of the fast food chain, Chick-fil-A. For decades, these same gay activists have demanded that everyone show toleration of their sexual orientation. There was a time when gays and lesbians were horribly mistreated by the law. We’re not living in that day, and it’s silly to pretend that we are. (I’ve argued that the state has no business defining marriage and dictating who can marry, so I’m not in a camp that wants to legally define marriage in any particular way.)
Activists are angry with Chick-fil-A because the private company’s owners have given money to Christian groups, some of which have favored efforts to legally define marriage as being between a man and a woman. The activists say this isn’t just a disagreement. No, it’s “hate,” they say. They don’t give any evidence that Chick-fil-A hates anyone. They simply define disagreement with their view as hatred. It’s hard to imagine a more insane twisting of what words really mean.

Why do we stay in prison when there’s no lock holding us there?
Police threaten to seize my camera for crime of public photography
Ohio high school shooting shouldn’t be excuse to take more guns away
Federal debt default? So what? It happened before — in 1979
Don’t be so quick to walk away; you might be close to success
UK-based philosopher: Tax money paid to state is actually ‘charity’
Goodbye, Charlotte (2009-2016)
How do we start over and give ourselves parenting we needed?
If our assumptions don’t match, we can clash with best intentions