I know a woman who married a man who turned out to be a monster. In public, he was responsible and loving. He had a respected position in their community. He said and did all the right things around others.
But in private, he was an abusive monster to his family. Their children were terrified of him. They learned early in life never to talk about what went on at home, because he was very concerned about his public image. His wife never knew what he was going to do. She couldn’t count on him when she was sick. Nothing she did was good enough. He screamed at her and belittled her at every chance.
The man cheated on his wife with someone at work. He was quietly fired, but he wouldn’t admit what happened. After he took another job and started cheating again, his wife finally divorced him. The guy never did admit to any error. He never confessed to anything. He just claimed to be misunderstood by everyone.

The egalitarian lie: Every group has leaders, even Occupy Wall Street
Father who I saw as Mr. Morality turned out to be a liar and a thief
Having a bad day? Meg gives you free smiles at the Rainbow Shop
We often don’t see who loves us until it’s too late to be an option
To see how I’ve changed over time, notice which women I’ve fallen for
How miserable does someone have to be to ‘troll’ a cute dog picture?
Social media can be dangerous for those of us raised by narcissists